joflasher | why, oh why...?

After months of lurking in my friends' journals and thinking "man, I wish I could comment on that, I should really join up", I've finally bit the bullet and got a journal. And what instigated this kick in the pants, you may ask? A post in wyndam's journal that about him being upset that made me upset. And since I can't post the response there, (not listed as one of his friends), I guess I'll just have to post it here. I hope I'm not breaking some unwritten rule about "thou shalt not reply to people's entries in your own journal" or such. Oh well.

in response to wyndam:
Not that I don't think you're going to explain this better, but your complaint is coming across as "Women/men shouldn't dress/act/be sexy unless they will have sex with me". I'm pretty sure that's not what you are trying to say but that's how I'm seeing it.

If anyone thinks it might be "fun" or "funny" to hold my sexuality over me, or to hold sex over me like some leash, please don't. It will hurt me more than you can possibly imagine.

I'm at a loss at how someone can hold sex over you like a leash...? I mean, why would you keep trying after you get shot down once or twice even if she is wearing a skirt up to there, a shirt down to here and nothing in between?

*confused*